people look at me crazy when i tell them my wife doesnt work.

  I agree with your sentiments. This is why I see a lot of young families moving to areas like Valencia, where they can afford houses on one salary. The climate sucks, but hey, at least mommy's home. I would actually recommend most young couples to only buy a house that they can afford on only the husband's salary. I see too many young women who have babies and then are forced back to work a month after childbirth in order to afford their lifestyle. 

  (By the way, I think that you mean Prop 13 instead of Prop 8. I don't think that the issue of gay marriage has had a huge effect on property taxes. Haha.)

So how is life in that ivory tower that you live in?

These are different times, the ways of life from 30 years ago do not exist now.  We are way better off in some ways, and way worse off, but none of that is going to change.  I am glad that you didn't have to work, and you should consider yourself lucky that you got to buy a house when they were very cheap. 

I have a higher paying job, and it is going to take a nice percentage of my salary as well as all of the money that I have saved up in my life to pay for a house that is in a nice enough area for me to consider living in, and I have been financially responsible my entire life (zero debt ever).  Of course my wife is going to have to work to help pay for our place, that is just how life is nowadays.  

I am a one income family, taking care of my two children. Obviously, I can't stay home with my kids or we'd be a zero income family.

I guess I could get married just to have a stay-at-home father... 

Not everyone has the luxury of being able to stay home with the kids. We do as well as we can with the circumstances that we have been given.